5 Reasons Why Your Meditation Routine Might Not Work

Meditative practices are spreading like fire, even among those people who are far away from Eastern practices and spirituality. And at the same time, there are more and more people shouting that meditations don’t work for them. If you take a closer look, you will see interesting patterns and understand why your practices are not taking your anywhere.

Reasons Why Your Meditation Fails (And How to Change This)

  1. You’re not doing it consequently.
    It’s crucial not just to do it day by day, but to actually set a specific time frame for your meditations. This will allow you focus easier and faster.
  2. You don’t have a proper guide.
    It’s really important to have something (or someone) to guide you, especially when you’re just starting. Otherwise, you’re risking to simply sit straight for 20 minutes, doing nothing. You can sign up for a course or download an app with guidance.
  3. You want it here and now.
    Your results won’t come immediately after your first try. If you want to achieve enlightenment and turn into a Buddha, you will need years or practice. Inner peace doesn’t come at once and it’s okay.
  4. You are doing it wrong.
    Many people start with 20 minutes of meditation. Right, sitting straight in a not-so-comfortable position, trying to maintain inner peace for 20 minutes sharp would indeed seem like a stressful task. Try to build up to it, start with 5 minutes a day.
  5. You’re switching all the time.
    Yes, there are many different techniques you might want to try, but if you’re jumping back and forth, you’re getting nothing from it. Try to choose one routine and stick to it. If you see that you’re not good, try a different one, but give it time.

It’s much easier to give up than to admit that you’re doing something wrong. But if you work on your mistakes, you might find a way to enrich your life and revitalize your nervous system without the expensive stuff. Meditation is indeed an affordable practice that only takes intention.

Exercising in Positive Psychology: Easy Tricks from Coaching

Positive psychology goes along with a belief that people need (or even crave) rational, meaningful lives that would fulfill them. Living up to your standards and being the best you could be automatically equals a rich and fulfilling life. But reaching that lifestyle is a long journey for many people. Luckily, there are ways to help them.

Emotional coaching or life coaching is a popular service people use to change their old ways and incorporate positive thinking into their daily routine. There are some really popular exercises coaches use that work like magic for the most people. Those you could easily practice yourself no matter where you are.

Simple Positive Psychology Exercises to Incorporate into Your Life

  • Write to yourself.
    This trick is as old as the world, yet it’s 100% working. People always have something they don’t like about themselves. Think of that thing (or those things, if you’re willing) and then try to look at this situation from a different perspective. For that, you have to imagine your friend has the same issue. What would you say to them? Try to find warm and encouraging words for them. The key here is that we tend to be harsher to ourselves than we are to others. Sometimes we tell ourselves those things we would never tell another person. Be kind to who you are.
  • Choose positive.
    While this sounds so simple, it’s probably the hardest task in the world for us. The key in this exercise is to detect negative thoughts, see them before they really mess up your systems and stop them. The reason why it’s so hard is that people are not used to watching their thoughts and reflecting on their feelings. If you start actually thinking about how you feel and why you will see that many of your worries have no ground underneath and it will become easier to choose a positive side.
  • Keep a diary of rights and wrongs.
    In this diary, you will write a positive and a negative thing daily. Actually, it will be a whole another exercise to find something positive in some days, but you have to try. When writing about a positive experience note why it’s positive and how it made you feel. When writing about a negative one, try to understand why it’s so negative for you and how you can change it.
  • Visualize your best self.
    You have to do it daily to reach the strongest effect. This exercise positively affects how people see themselves and helps them move forward to their goals and dreams. It also helps to boost optimism and overall happiness. You have to strongly imagine who you would want to be in 5, 10, 15 years from now and explain why or how you reached those heights.
  • Break the cycle.
    People get stuck in the negative emotional cycles all the time. They simply get caught up in the track of thoughts and can’t break that negative cycle. Try to focus on your breath the next time it’s happening and just listen to yourself breathing in and out. Slowly, at least after a minute of that, you should return to your first thought and reevaluate it. In most cases, you will see that there is nothing dreadful happening.
  • Let your self-compassion grow.
    We say bad things about ourselves all the time, bashing who we are. Yet, this is not an effective technique. It would be much better if you learn self-compassion and start accepting who you are. Treat yourself gently, thinking about your flaws as of something current, something that you’re working on and battling. Being your own friend and supporting yourself will give you some courage to fight against your flaws.
  • Practice mindfulness.
    The easiest way to do this is by actually sitting down and meditating. It’s also a great way to recharge your batteries. You will incorporate a few extra positive elements into your meditation routine if you learn to clean your mind and focus on some good things that you are grateful for. It would be good to concentrate on a thought and then slowly let your mind wander off. When you start your meditation with a positive thought, it changes and brings you enjoyment.

It would be really life-changing to incorporate at least one of these exercises into your life. You have to try different things though, so you will know what really works for you and what you don’t really like. You might even find that moderating those exercising and adding your own component to those would work for you. The only guide here is to stay positive and learn to control your negative side, letting more positivity into your life.